Comments on: Job Hunting & Dating Both Stink http://www.thiswriterswallet.com/2008/07/21/job-hunting-dating-both-stink/ the story of an Chicago 20-something as she tries to make, save and spend money Fri, 21 Nov 2008 14:16:32 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 By: Broke-Ass Student » Blog Archive » Sunday Snoozin’ http://www.thiswriterswallet.com/2008/07/21/job-hunting-dating-both-stink/#comment-1193 Broke-Ass Student » Blog Archive » Sunday Snoozin’ Sun, 27 Jul 2008 20:10:52 +0000 http://www.thiswriterswallet.com/?p=432#comment-1193 [...] Writer’s Wallet shares her view on why job hunting and dating both stink, a premise I can certainly sympathize [...] [...] Writer’s Wallet shares her view on why job hunting and dating both stink, a premise I can certainly sympathize [...]

]]> By: Ronnie Ann http://www.thiswriterswallet.com/2008/07/21/job-hunting-dating-both-stink/#comment-1184 Ronnie Ann Sat, 26 Jul 2008 16:37:01 +0000 http://www.thiswriterswallet.com/?p=432#comment-1184 Hi GG! Sorry it took so long for me to visit. I took a consulting job and am back in the work world. Puts a real cramp on my blogging. ;-) As for dating...oh man could I write a book. We all could! The one thing I've learned about dating is that I know nothing for sure, even after all these years. I'm reminded of the first date I had with guy...I absolutely knew I was NOT attracted to him. But we saw each other a few more times as friends and, without giving away the details, he turned out to be the best lover I ever had. I think guys are just as confused about how to date as we are, and, just like mfaorbust, guys also sometimes keep their cards close to the table and it takes a while to get them to open up - or for us to understand why something they said or did might not have been a good indication of who they are. And some of them are just plain scared of us. (I've learned this after much field research.) You're wise in comparing it to the interview process...if everyone would just be themselves from the git go the whole thing would work so much better! And just like in an interview, it's ok to ask follow-up questions! :) Always a great read, GG. Cheers. Ronnie Ann Hi GG!

Sorry it took so long for me to visit. I took a consulting job and am back in the work world. Puts a real cramp on my blogging. ;-)

As for dating…oh man could I write a book. We all could! The one thing I’ve learned about dating is that I know nothing for sure, even after all these years. I’m reminded of the first date I had with guy…I absolutely knew I was NOT attracted to him. But we saw each other a few more times as friends and, without giving away the details, he turned out to be the best lover I ever had.

I think guys are just as confused about how to date as we are, and, just like mfaorbust, guys also sometimes keep their cards close to the table and it takes a while to get them to open up - or for us to understand why something they said or did might not have been a good indication of who they are. And some of them are just plain scared of us. (I’ve learned this after much field research.)

You’re wise in comparing it to the interview process…if everyone would just be themselves from the git go the whole thing would work so much better! And just like in an interview, it’s ok to ask follow-up questions! :)

Always a great read, GG. Cheers.

Ronnie Ann

]]> By: Zombie Money http://www.thiswriterswallet.com/2008/07/21/job-hunting-dating-both-stink/#comment-1171 Zombie Money Fri, 25 Jul 2008 03:36:04 +0000 http://www.thiswriterswallet.com/?p=432#comment-1171 I agree on the dating!! Girls are sooooooooo confusing :) I'm sure they can say that about guys also ha. This year I've dedicated the year to myself and actually doing things for myself that I enjoy instead of waiting and trying to find Miss Right. I'm sure she'll pop up someday. Its been much less stressful thats for sure. Helps the savings also! :) I agree on the dating!! Girls are sooooooooo confusing :) I’m sure they can say that about guys also ha.

This year I’ve dedicated the year to myself and actually doing things for myself that I enjoy instead of waiting and trying to find Miss Right. I’m sure she’ll pop up someday. Its been much less stressful thats for sure. Helps the savings also! :)

]]> By: GG @ This Writer's Wallet http://www.thiswriterswallet.com/2008/07/21/job-hunting-dating-both-stink/#comment-1153 GG @ This Writer's Wallet Wed, 23 Jul 2008 03:58:39 +0000 http://www.thiswriterswallet.com/?p=432#comment-1153 <strong>Shamelle</strong>: Yep, that's the parallel question, along with--are they settling for me, or will they wait for something better? You know? <strong>Bonnie</strong>: Well, since you're advising from the other side, so to speak, I especially appreciate the comment. At some point things got better for you, right? So that means they do for other people? Seriously, I tell my married friends, be thankful you're done with this whole thing! <strong>JL</strong>: I love that you called it tacky. That is the word! <strong>SD</strong>: Yeah, overall so confusing. <strong>MFA</strong>: That's really interesting and maybe something for me to think about. In interviews, I'm always totally positive, even if I'd never consider the job. In dating, I'm more guarded, not wanting to lead the guy on. I wonder if that's my problem. <strong>BGS</strong>: You are a brave one, commenting amongst all these women. LOL at your comment. I laughed out loud, so thanks for that. :) Shamelle: Yep, that’s the parallel question, along with–are they settling for me, or will they wait for something better? You know?

Bonnie: Well, since you’re advising from the other side, so to speak, I especially appreciate the comment. At some point things got better for you, right? So that means they do for other people? Seriously, I tell my married friends, be thankful you’re done with this whole thing!

JL: I love that you called it tacky. That is the word!

SD: Yeah, overall so confusing.

MFA: That’s really interesting and maybe something for me to think about. In interviews, I’m always totally positive, even if I’d never consider the job. In dating, I’m more guarded, not wanting to lead the guy on. I wonder if that’s my problem.

BGS: You are a brave one, commenting amongst all these women. LOL at your comment. I laughed out loud, so thanks for that. :)

]]> By: Broke Grad Student http://www.thiswriterswallet.com/2008/07/21/job-hunting-dating-both-stink/#comment-1152 Broke Grad Student Wed, 23 Jul 2008 03:24:55 +0000 http://www.thiswriterswallet.com/?p=432#comment-1152 Have you ever considered that maybe all of the guys worth dating are busy writing blogs about their paying back their student loans? Have you ever considered that maybe all of the guys worth dating are busy writing blogs about their paying back their student loans?

]]> By: mfaorbust http://www.thiswriterswallet.com/2008/07/21/job-hunting-dating-both-stink/#comment-1151 mfaorbust Tue, 22 Jul 2008 20:18:37 +0000 http://www.thiswriterswallet.com/?p=432#comment-1151 For interviews, I tend to hold my cards close to my chest; in relationships, I tend to wear my heart on my sleeve. I'm sure there's something for me to learn in both situations. For interviews, I tend to hold my cards close to my chest; in relationships, I tend to wear my heart on my sleeve. I’m sure there’s something for me to learn in both situations.

]]> By: SavingDIva http://www.thiswriterswallet.com/2008/07/21/job-hunting-dating-both-stink/#comment-1150 SavingDIva Tue, 22 Jul 2008 18:36:48 +0000 http://www.thiswriterswallet.com/?p=432#comment-1150 I hate dating! I also agree with Bonnie. If the guy isn't willing to let you know that he had a good time, he's not worth your trouble. Finding someone you click with is difficult...but steer clear of assholes along the way! I hate dating! I also agree with Bonnie. If the guy isn’t willing to let you know that he had a good time, he’s not worth your trouble. Finding someone you click with is difficult…but steer clear of assholes along the way!

]]> By: Jennifer Lynn http://www.thiswriterswallet.com/2008/07/21/job-hunting-dating-both-stink/#comment-1149 Jennifer Lynn Tue, 22 Jul 2008 17:08:36 +0000 http://www.thiswriterswallet.com/?p=432#comment-1149 Yuck, so tacky. Not only did he try to go in for a kiss on the first date, he didn't even have the courtesy to tell you whether he'd like to see you again. I hope you had a nice dinner at least. Dating is survival of the fittest (it's a jungle out there!) and I think this guy pretty much vetoed himself. Yuck, so tacky. Not only did he try to go in for a kiss on the first date, he didn’t even have the courtesy to tell you whether he’d like to see you again. I hope you had a nice dinner at least. Dating is survival of the fittest (it’s a jungle out there!) and I think this guy pretty much vetoed himself.

]]> By: Bonnie http://www.thiswriterswallet.com/2008/07/21/job-hunting-dating-both-stink/#comment-1148 Bonnie Tue, 22 Jul 2008 15:23:36 +0000 http://www.thiswriterswallet.com/?p=432#comment-1148 GG, I would run, not walk, away from the guy. I spent many years being single and suffering through the dating scene, and I have enough stories to fill a book. What he should have said was, "I had a great time. Do you want to go out again next week?" Or, at the very least, instead of saying what he did, he should have just called you within a couple of days and asked you out again for the following weekend. So frustrating. Also, thanks for posting all of the job-hunting links. GG, I would run, not walk, away from the guy. I spent many years being single and suffering through the dating scene, and I have enough stories to fill a book. What he should have said was, “I had a great time. Do you want to go out again next week?” Or, at the very least, instead of saying what he did, he should have just called you within a couple of days and asked you out again for the following weekend. So frustrating. Also, thanks for posting all of the job-hunting links.

]]> By: Shamelle @ TheEnhanceLife.com http://www.thiswriterswallet.com/2008/07/21/job-hunting-dating-both-stink/#comment-1145 Shamelle @ TheEnhanceLife.com Tue, 22 Jul 2008 03:20:38 +0000 http://www.thiswriterswallet.com/?p=432#comment-1145 I like the way you have compared dating and the job interview. I can related well to that! At the end of the day the decisive factor is - Settle for this or wait for more ?? Shamelle I like the way you have compared dating and the job interview. I can related well to that!

At the end of the day the decisive factor is - Settle for this or wait for more ??

Shamelle

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