Money Story: Why Does She Get Presents?

There are these two people I know, both female, both planning their upcoming weddings, both their first.

R is middle-aged and well-established in her career. K has been working for three (four?) years. They’re both in education, both at the same school.

Despite the huge age differences and despite what many people would say, these ladies both live with their parents right now, which is only relevant because it points out that for both of them, getting married will be putting them in their first “own place.”

R is marrying a man with three children. Obviously, he’s pretty established, financially speaking. He has a house and all the things that go with that: the towels, the appliances, the bedding, the toaster, etc.

K is marrying a man who, though he lives on his own, has lived pretty bachelor and lacks all those little niceties people love to register for.

So in light of this and the upcoming showers and gift-giving they both expect, K feels the playing field is unlevel. “It’s not really fair,” she says. “R will already have all those things, while (husband-to-be and I) have to start from scratch.”

Kind of reminds me of the graduation announcements.

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