Raise Your Hand if You’ve Tried Online Dating!
You know, no matter how many times I see those smiling couples on eHarmony or match.com commercials, I still hang my head in embarrassment and shame when I admit I’ve tried them. Yes, I’m serious, both about trying online dating and about being humiliated. In fact, in the interest of full disclosure: I am mentally deleting and rewriting this post, wondering if I’m even comfortable admitting this to the PF-blogging public.
My second cousin met his wife online, after 40+ years of being a bachelor. Unfortunately, they’re now divorced, but I could name a handful of other people who I know successfully found a match on the Internet. Different social spheres, different values and interests; one thing in common: looking for love.
I just don’t know.
A friend of mine is a new tester of the online systems. She’s been on two dates so far and is choosing to be very selective. “I narrowed all my criteria as far as I could,” she told me. The second guy, whom she met last week, seems promising. “I signed up for six months, even though I might be someone sooner. I figure, if I meet someone, it would have been a small price to pay.”
What’s your opinion?
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10 Responses to “Raise Your Hand if You’ve Tried Online Dating!”
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Yeah, I know what you mean. I ordered a book on-line last year and my friends and family are still laughing at me. Man, what was I thinking? Can you imagine, buying stuff on-line? I can’t stop thinking about. Friends are suggesting therapy and selectively erasing this traumatic event from my memory.
I’ve done the online dating thing before. A few times actually. In fact, most of my friends have too. I think it’s socially acceptable now … and I remember when I was on Lavalife, I saw pictures of guys that I knew in my everyday life, but I know they would never admit that they use online dating. I’ve never brought it up before, but presumably, they’ve seen me on that site too.
I have no problem admitting I’ve done online dating. It’s fun, and it’s time efficient, and you can afford to be picky without being rude.
I am currently on yahoo personals. I have done it in the past and still have those friendships. Unfortunately I have never found a love match, but I have found 2 of my best friends. This time around I have a great friend, an “Im not sure yet” and a date tonight. All decent men. I’m just not meeting people the ‘old school’ way anymore.
While I have not personally tried on-line dating (I was lucky enough to find the love of my life in law school) my mother currently has been dating men that she met on-line. While I was a little skeptical (and still am), if that makes her happy who am I to judge. She hasn’t actually found a love match either, but you never know what the future holds. Give it a shot.
I’ve never online dated, though I did TRY to sign up for e-Harmony a few years back. I was in a big dating slump, so I filled out their extensive profile survey thing (took me 2 hours if I remember correctly!), and received a notice that said something along the lines of: “Unfortunately, e-Harmony doesn’t work for everyone. There is a small percentage of the population that we are unable to help.” Just what you want to hear when you’re in a dry spell, eh?
About a year and a half later, I met my boyfriend though, live and in person, so that’s that for me.
My cousin and his wife met on J-Date though, and are happy…and several of my friends have online-dated and found it to be very fruitful!
I haven’t. I met my bf in high school (although we did get together over AIM. oh the sweet innocent days of yore…).
But I don’t see anything wrong with online dating. So many people are trying it now. Still, I’ve always had this vision of meeting the guy in a bookstore, or a coffee shop, or the library (when we reach for the same book). Then I had to remind myself that my life? Is not a romantic comedy.
I have a lot of friends that have used match.com…but I can’t really see myself doing it.
I don’t think I would ever do online dating; but if I did, I would use e-Harmony, not match.com. 2 reasons: First, e-Harmony actually narrows down the field to people that you are compatible with, instead of giving you everybody in your area.
Second, because e-Harmony is more private. You can only see people’s pictures if you are a paying member and are being matched with that person. On match.com, anyone can just look at the site and see the picture and profile of everyone on there. It isn’t nearly as discreet. With e-Harmony, you aren’t telling the whole world that you’re looking for a man. With match.com, who knows who will look at that. Could be awkward.
I’ve never done it but my sister has and she found her husband. I think it’s awesome. It’s hard to meet people nowadays and now there’s a way to meet others you’d never get a chance to. There’s no insurance you won’t meet a crazy online but you could meet a crazy walking down the street! Cyber dating is a good thing and I think will lead to better and even safer dating.
Jerry
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